Sharing personal information brings people closer together. Verified by Psychology Today. Fighting Fear. Most married couples develop a shared understanding of who does what in their relationship. It is a sometimes unspoken recognition of an inevitable division of labor and responsibilities. In fact, in much of the animal kingdom there is a division of labor which grows inescapably out of different biological imperatives—although here and there in the animal kingdom there are surprising instances of role reversal.
I was talking to a man in his sixties in the village in Lundazi in the Eastern Province of Zambia. He told me that some muzungu first came to the district about thirty years ago and asked the villagers to dig up these green stones. The white man told them the green stones were so worthless he would pay them about Ten Kwacha for a big 10 kg. The man says he now knows the deep green large emerald gems were so precious that the first whites who knew the full value of the gems made a great profit. He regretted that for a long time that the Zambian people in the villages did not realize the real value of the emeralds. The Post, Jan 31,
Role of Sex in Marriage: the Zambian Cultural Heritage
Many things get lost in the long haul of relationships, among them inhibitions, senses of humour, socks — and, in many cases, libido. It is a lucky and unusual couple who, decades into a marriage, still feel the same passion for each other that ignited their early relationship. Far more common is the story of the once-happy sex life that has waned as the years passed — that initial physical bond becoming fractured in the maelstrom of raising children, earning a living, running a house and growing older.
Physical intimacy is what makes a relationship more than just a platonic friendship. Some couples fall into a pattern or habit of letting the physical part of their marriage fall by the wayside. While there is a "normal" drop off within the first few years of marriage, particularly if kids come into the picture, complete loss of this physical aspect of marriage often signals a marital problem that needs to be addressed. Without the physical intimacy that differentiates a romantic partnership from a platonic one, married couples can become more-or-less roommates.